Do I leave him and be a single mom with three kids?

My husband and I met when I was 18, got pregnant, and now have three small kids ages 7, 3, and 2. We fight and argue on a daily basis. He doesn’t drink excessively, gamble, or cheat. But we have different views on parenting. Very different views. He doesn’t think he should say please or thank you to the kids because they don’t listen. He expects them to listen the first time every time. It’s just not realistic. We don’t get along at all. Can not even have a conversation about the weather without getting into it. But I don’t want to end it just because things are hard. It’s been eight years and I am just so tired mentally. I know it’s not healthy for the kids to be around fighting and bickering all the time. It never gets physical by the way. But it would be even harder for them not to have a dad in their life.

I care about him but can not be civil at all. Marriage counseling is out of the question. He refuses and I don’t like psychologist myself. I am at a loss of what to do. I don’t want to take the easy way out but I can’t continue this everyday misery.

And I know, I also loathe some of the questions that seem to pour their heart out and expect you to solve all their problems instantly. I just need some perspective. I’m desparate!!!

Thanks in advance!

A serious question about sex and marriage…?

My wife and I have been married for two years now, been seeing each other for almost four and have been friends for almost ten. When we first started dating, the sex was unbelievable!! If anything, I almost found her sex drive intimidating. We were very open and honest about what we wanted, how to please each other, compromising when we didn’t see eye to eye etc. And now, it seems like the moment I put that ring on her finger, her sexuality has just completely dried up. Now we MAYBE make love once a month and she approaches it like she’s doing the laundry. This is the exact opposite of the woman I fell in love with. I love her, and there’s a lot of things beyond sex I do love about her, but she doesn’t want to understand that sex is a big component of a marriage. I try talking to her and she just keeps saying she’s sorry. I’ve been to counselling (she won’t go). All she says to me is “i don’t feel like i have to have sex with you anymore” I’m so angry, i just want to leave.
More details…

No children and I’ve tried talking to her repeatedly about it, about how I feel and what’s gone wrong. She makes a committment to work on it and then she just ignores it.
Sorry, initial text box was too small, so maybe some people aren’t clear about what I’m saying… i’ll try to explain. The real problem is that she doesn’t even acknowledge that there’s a real problem. That’s what makes me angry. She is in a world of denial that our sex life has changed at all. I would just love to know why… whatever the answer is. Of course i don’t want to hear that I’m not cutting it in the bedroom, but i need to hear it if that’s the case so i can work on what i need to work on. But she also has to meet me halfway. I’ve booked lover’s weekends away, i spent one Valentine’s Day leaving a trail of love letters around the house for her to find (after we married, not before) and once i spent an afternoon decorating our bedroom with sheets, candles and rose petals only to have her come home, mumble that she’s tired and she’s going to bed. No, I don’t do these things anymore, because what’s the point? Everything is fine! All I want to know is what happened.

marriage/divorce question..?

love my husband so much, we have been together almost 5 years and married 2. he says i ***** so much and i do everything for him and i try not to *****, how could i make him miss me? i know he still loves me but i knowhes not in love with me…all i want to do is make him happy.help please.
oh and he wont try counseling, he will not ope up to anyone anymore, not even me.

I need help from a pastor please………?

What role does sunday school plays in the church? How does it help the family.

How do you go about helping the needy in your society?

Do you know people that went through marriage counselling? If so how does it affect them?
Does the church provide marriage counselling?

How is you’re church meeting the social, spiritual and psychological needs?

Can you please answer all of the questions and please say your name and church name as well thanks.

can severe anxiety/panic attacks be cured without medication?

i’m constantly anxious as all hell, developed something like agoraphobia (I only go out after taking xanax or getting drunk), really if you go down the list of anxiety symptoms I have them all constantly. the worst is walking around with this horrible fog in my brain. I can’t think clearly, I get super emotional, anger problems, very agitated, etc. I’ve tried 6 different antidepressants now and they’ve all just been terrible poison. the ones I’ve taken in the past I don’t really know how they work for anxiety because this has all only developed (at least to this extreme level) within the past year. I barely leave my house once a week, and that’s only for therapy. I used to be on the go constantly with my ex-girlfriend, partying every weekend, etc, with no problems at all. and then first it started to happen when I’d go to the mall, I’d get a panic attack EVERY time. so I avoided the mall. then it would happen in my ex’s car, so I avoided her car most of the time. before long I wasn’t able to drive myself, go to any stores, go out drinking, and then eventually I wasn’t even safe from it in my own house. I ended up in a short-term mental hospital for a few days back in december, and they forced me to take celexa which didn’t help the anxiety and just made me feel completely apathetic to everything. I had gone from crying all day everyday about my breakup to not caring about anything. so I never got the script filled after I was discharged. I’ve been going to therapy for a couple of months now (hasn’t helped at all, I think I need to find a psychologist instead of just seeing a social worker), and they had me try effexor XR, and within two days it made me suicidal. went back to see the doc today and he said he didn’t feel comfortable putting me on antidepressants anymore if they had that effect on me, and tried to push bipolar meds. I told him no way, and he just told me to keep taking my xanax and see if the CBT works. in other words he basically did nothing to help me.

anyway, I’m hoping that the anxiety is all just in my head and that if I can learn to think differently and just not care about it, that it won’t bother me anymore, but the problem is it always seems to be physical symptoms and then they trigger panic attacks because I start to freak out about the way i’m breathing, or how my heart is racing, or the faint feeling in my head, and i’m constantly worrying and have racing thoughts. like I said before, I’m walking around with my head in a cloud, and it’s awful. if you asked me how I started everything I’ve just written, I wouldn’t be able to tell you the first sentence without going back up and looking at it.

anyway, because it was only $8 and I don’t know what else to do, I went and filled the generic celexa script today, but haven’t started taking it yet and don’t know if I’m going to. even if it could possibly help, I’d like to think I could be a stronger person than someone who has to take antidepressants for the rest of my life because I can’t cope with, basically, feeling nervous. so I don’t really know what to do. but I’m tired of being confined to my house, miserable, jobless, never going out on weekends anymore, and certainly being miserable over my ex-girlfriend instead of at least trying to meet new girls.

anyone have any success without medication? I know people are gonna say things like breathing exercises and meditation, but they just don’t work for me. breathing exercises freak me out, and I can’t calm myself down enough or stop thinking about all the nonsense that goes through my head long enough to meditate.

right now I usually take 0.5mg xanax twice a day, and if I have to go out and drive sometimes it ends up being 1.25mg or 1.5mg by the end of the day (which isn’t good cause my script will run out sooner). other than that, I just take B-vitamins and fish oil, they don’t seem to make any difference. I also work out on my home gym every other day, and have been trying to use an elliptical on the off days but i’m so out of shape that I don’t quite have all that in me yet, i’m easing myself in.

also, I’ve found that when I get drunk (but only when it’s on occasion) I don’t feel anxious at all (and then when it starts to wear off, or the next morning, I feel about 100x more anxious along with the hangover).

I guess that’s all there is to say, so please help! anyone have success with CBT for SEVERE anxiety? i’m talking constant feeling of anxiety in general with all the physical symptoms and the b rain fog and then anticipatory panic attacks, along with invariable panic attacks associated with specific events (driving, shopping, etc).

Right shoes for running with chondromalacia?

I’ve been wearing Brooks but they’re starting to wear out and I want to try another brand.

I’ve already been to physical therapy for a couple months and got the OK to start running again. I also do special daily exercises to keep the strength in my knee up.

I was just wondering if Under Armour is an okay brand for running shoes. I had a really bad experience with Nike running shoes and I’m not sure if the UA ones are similar.
Here’s a definition of chondromalacia:

A degeneration of cartilage in the knee, usually caused by excessive wear between the patella and lower end of the femur

how to achieve a 5 min. mile time in 1 1/2 months?

i just recovered from a knee injury a couple weeks ago (the tissue around my knee cap was too weak to support it, so I’m in physical therapy now). I was hoping to get into shape as soon as possible, and have a 5 minute mile by the middle of June. My current mile time is about a 6:40. I go to the gym every day and do spinner bikes for 30 minutes, go on elliptical for about 20 minutes (while increasing the resistance every 5 minutes), and do squats and exercises from physical therapy when i get home.

So basically I am asking:
if my goal is realistic enough?
If not, what would be a more realistic goal to aim for?
and what else I can do to help achieve my goal?

All advice is GREAAATTLLYYY appreciated! :